"Is there a way to become more intuitive?"

New Year’s resolutions are usually about change, right? But what do we change? What needs to be improved or removed? At a personal level, I believe we are the only ones who truly know what we may want (or need) to change.

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"We each have all of the Five Elements in our personality make-up, but we have a special affinity for one of them. You can think of this elemental affinity as a lens through which we view the world. We spend our life thinking, acting, and seeing the world through this lens. Our priorities and tendencies in life are based on this affinity."

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Dear Vicki: My husband and I are having some difficulties and I hope you can help me. We’ve lost some of the playfulness we had together and I’m worried. Can you help?

On a date night, my husband said I should have ignored a call instead of answering, once I knew it wasn’t our babysitter. Who’s right? I’m a Metal with some Earth and I’m pretty sure my husband is a Wood with a good amount of Earth.

I need help relating to my mother. When I was growing up, she never acted like my friend’s moms; we had no cookies, no cuddles, nothing warm and fuzzy. Instead, we had rules and order in a well-run household of five (she had three children).

"When the unthinkable occurs, when humans turn violent against each other as happened at a Texas elementary school earlier this week, we immediately ask ourselves, “How could this have happened? How is this possible?”

"How do I manage the sadness I feel given all that’s going on in the world?"

"A dear friend of the family passed away almost three months ago. Fran was like an elderly aunt to me and my older sister Ruthie, and it has been hard for me to process the loss. I’ve reached out to Ruthie to talk about it, but she doesn’t want to. How do I get Ruthie to talk about Fran?'

"I understand that these are exceptional times what with Covid-19 and all, but lately I’ve been really critical! I criticize everything my husband suggests (I know he’s just trying to help, but his ideas aren’t that great). What can I do to be less critical of him (and actually, less critical in general)?"

“For three years I’ve served as the president of our condo association. We have a congenial board and I keep our meetings pleasant, but efficient; we all have plenty of other things we need to do. That all changed four months ago when Laura joined the board. She is cheery, but opinionated. Productive, but assertive. Upbeat, but bossy. We clashed almost immediately.”

"Regardless of the reason, the issue of missing people we can’t be with is going to be the same. The loss of a physical connection with people we love does create an ache in our heart, and that is something we can address."

"It’s difficult to feel ignored when praise is passed out, especially when you were half of the team that created the company."

"Fear can be a good thing. It’s often an early warning that something needs our attention. When you find yourself feeling fearful, stop and pay attention to what’s going on around you. Is there a reason to be afraid? If so, can you do something about it?"

“The idea of making New Year’s resolutions is popular in our culture not because we’re a world of primary Wood personalities. Instead, I think the popularity of resolutions suggests that each elemental personality can and does connect with the idea of a fresh start.”